Belief and assisted procreation: are they compatible?

There are those who are faced with the decision to resort to in vitro fertilization because in their faith – or in the way they live it – there is no place for these treatments. Marcela is one of them and tells us her story here.

“I grew up in a house evangelical Christian and, since I was a teenager, I knew that I would dedicate my life to God : I wanted to be a missionary. I felt so much love and fire for Him that I knew I had to do it. From the age of 25 until today, I belong to a community of missionaries called Young people on a mission.

Although starting a family had always been part of my plans and dreams, I was not ready to give up on my life. That’s why I had to marry a missionary. No sooner said than done. While in the mission, I met my current husband whom I married at 45 years old.

In what I believe is to walk with God there is refraining from sexual relations until marriage. When I got married, obviously I didn’t take care of myself because I wanted to get pregnant, but nothing happened. A doctor niece said to me, “Marce, did you know that after six months of trying, there’s a chance you could be sterile?” This option was never in my head, but after a while I went to the doctor and confirmed it: “You can only be a mother through in vitro fertilization (IVF)” , the doctor told me. I cried. I cried without stopping.

I had witnessed so many miracles that I couldn’t believe what was happening to me, I wasn’t connecting to this God that I serve, who is a God of miracles. I felt that if she had already given me a husband, she was also going to give me children. For me it felt like a complete package.

Belief and assisted procreation: are they compatible?

But even if the indications were to do an in vitro test, I wanted to get pregnant naturally. I believed that God was going to do a miracle with me. “I’m going to tell everyone that they told me I was infertile, but I still got pregnant naturally and without intervention,” I thought. But years passed and this miracle never happened.

And there came my crisis of faith. I cried, I screamed and I even doubted the existence of God. He had seen sterile pregnant women and terminally ill people healed. “Why isn’t the same thing happening to me?” » I asked myself. But even though it was a much-needed moment of relief, I then took a breath and continued to walk hand in hand with God because my belief in Him is real.

A couple from our mission experienced something similar to us and she successfully became a mother after undergoing IVF. My husband suggested I try it, and although it was difficult for me to understand that God had a different path for me, I had to have that epiphany and accept that IVF was also a miracle. And when I saw this little boy who was born thanks to the treatment, I thought: “How are they going to say that this little angel is not the work of God?! »

“Technology, science and medicine can improve many areas of our lives. Not accepting it would be like telling a person with cancer not to take chemo because God will do it naturally.

When I decided to do my first IVF, I thought it was going to be difficult, but it was super fun and exciting. That day, as Enrique Iglesias says, was a religious experience. When they placed the embryo inside me, I could only give thanks for what I was experiencing. And although this attempt failed, it was an experience of great peace and joy.

Since IVF is not so accepted among evangelicals, there have been people who have not accepted my decision and openly told me that it is not something natural from God. One day, my aunt, for example, told me that if God wanted to give me a child, he would do it naturally. At first, these comments depressed me a lot, especially if they were said to me by people of spiritual importance, but when I pray, I feel that God is saying to me: “Come on, Marcela, come!”

Technology, science and medicine can improve many areas of our lives. It would be like telling a person with cancer not to take chemotherapy because God will do it naturally. It’s illogical. It’s unreal. It’s inhumane.

Although I know there are detractors in the evangelical community, in my missionary community there is a lot of respect and they give me the freedom to do what I want. At first there were two people who didn’t really agree, but over time they accepted it and now they are very happy that we are trying. They managed to transform their way of thinking and it was very enjoyable.

I would like everyone to see that God can also act in this way, but we cannot believe that there are no errors in the Christian world. I know within my community there are things that are wrong, but that doesn’t make me leave because I can be an agent of change, I can help change that mentality.

Now I am on my second attempt and as I know that within the Christian community it is something that does not always look good, I prefer to be careful and not shout from the rooftops what I do. I want to be peaceful and calm to get pregnant. I don’t want to hear negative voices.

I would love to be a mother because I have wanted to since I was a child, but I know I will be happy with or without children. If it doesn’t work, I’ll be sad, I’ll wonder why others are doing it and not me, and I don’t know if one day I’ll have all the answers, but I’ll always continue to feel fulfilled in having him by my side, because if I don’t have God, I have nothing.

“I know there’s a chance it won’t work, but I don’t want the day to come where I look back and regret not trying.”

* Marcela is a reader of Paula and prefers to keep her identity protected.

Source: Latercera


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